How to Make Sense of the Teen YearsYour child will undergo many changes during their teen years, including physical, social, and mental changes that can make them act differently, some of which may be hard to deal with. It can be hard to remember that these actions are often typical in adolescence while teens try to find their own freedom, identity, and sense of self. But when these habits get bad enough to cause problems at school, it's essential to deal with them proactively.
Handling Behavior Problems in SchoolSome teens often fight at school. It can be caused by peer issues, bullying, or simply being upset about something that may or may not even be related to who they're fighting with. To deal with this behavior successfully, you need to know why it's happening - which can be more difficult when your teen isn't talking. Even if your teen hasn't hit the "fighting" stage, you might have noticed them beginning to withdraw, skip classes, or miss the entire day. This is also often accompanied by a decrease in motivation. Additionally, acting out in class, talking back to teachers, or being constantly disruptive can be signs of deeper problems.
What Can Parents Do to Help Angry Teens?The good news is that you have choices. Consider the following tips to see if you can make some headway. If not, our team might be the next best option, especially if you see your teen's behaviors spiraling quickly.
- Practice Active Listening: Try to listen actively when they talk to you. This means reserving judgment, focusing on what they're saying, and trying to see things from their point of view. Parents often have a response ready before their child is even finished. This is the opposite of active listening and can cause your child to withdraw further.
- Talk With School Employees: Talk to your child's teachers, psychologists, and leaders. Set up meetings to discuss your concerns and create solutions to the problems as a group. Schools usually have plans to help students who have trouble with their behavior. However, remember that your teen needs you on their side. If the plan doesn't have their best interests in mind, or your teen continues to struggle, it's time to search for alternatives.
- Set Clear Boundaries and Consequences: Make sure everyone at home knows what is expected of them and what will happen if they don't behave. You need to be consistent to help your teenager learn how important it is to act responsibly. It's also important to include them in the process. This makes them more likely to take responsibility for their actions and helps them understand how actions lead to results.
- Encourage Activities Outside of School: Get your son involved in activities outside of school or sports he likes. These things can give him an excellent way to use his energy and help him make good friends. Your teen's self-esteem and sense of belonging can also be boosted by events outside of school, which can help improve their behavior and attitude.
- Role Modeling: Be a good example by acting respectfully. Teens often learn from what and how their parents do things. Show them how to deal with conflicts and stress by doing these things yourself when you're with others.
- Get Professional Help: If your son's actions don't change or get worse, our team can help. We have years of experience working with struggling teens and offer a customized approach to help your teen resolve underlying issues and regain their confidence.