Signs and Causes Of Sexual Deviance In Youth

A certain amount of curiosity and interest in sex is to be expected from teenagers. With all the hormones coursing through their bodies and their brains still developing, it is not surprising that some troubled teens go astray and fall into deviant sexual activity, no matter what your family rules dictate.

What Drives Teens To Become Sexually Active

While research has shown that the rates of teens engaging in adult activities like sex, alcohol consumption, and other things have seen a marked decrease, there are still many teens who engage in sexual activity. What many parents struggle to understand is why.

There are a variety of common reasons for your teen's sexual activity.

  • Sexual curiosity - The hormones surging through your teen’s body plays a part in greatly heightening your teen’s natural curiosity and interest in sex. Parents who prefer to keep their teens in the dark about sex often find their teens go out to satisfy that curiosity firsthand, but without the tools to keep themselves safe. This fact, in part, is why it is so important for parents to take the lead in teaching sex ed to their children.
  • Pressure from partner - Teens with a boyfriend or girlfriend may undergo a good deal of pressure to have sex or be physically intimate in other ways. Their desire to be accepted can lead many young couples to engage in sexual activity before they are ready.
  • Peer pressure - Both teenage boys and girls can experience pressure to engage in sexual activity from their peers. This pressure can be fueled by a desire to seem older and more experienced. Or even a more simple need to keep up with the rest of the kids at school.
  • Defiance of rules - In an act of defiance, some teens choose to engage in sexual activity. Parents highly restrictive rules, such as no dating until 18 or who insist on monitoring their teens at all times often find their teens sneak around their rules in an attempt to exert their growing need for independence.

In some more extreme cases, sexual deviance may be triggered in teens due to sexual abuse, whether by a partner or when they were children. In these cases, it is vital that the teen receives therapeutic intervention to help them overcome the trauma. But first, you have to identify whether or not your teen is sexually active before you know how to intervene.

Signs That Your Teen Has Become Sexually Active

If you are concerned that your teen has begun engaging in risky sexual activity, there are signs you can look out for as you watch your teen. Should your teen display several of these signs, you can be fairly certain that they are sexually active.

  • Tracks your activities - Teens who are sneaking around engaging in sex will often want to know your schedule better than you know it. That way, they don’t run the risk of you catching them in the act.
  • Increased secretiveness - Around the teenage years, it is natural for teens to be less open with their parents and a little more withdrawn. However, if your teen shows a marked increase in secretiveness, such as guarding their devices and hiding their bag, you should be concerned.
  • Appearance alteration - Finding their style is a common pursuit among teens. However, teens engaging in sexual activity may become more appearance driven, buying more provocative clothes and spending hours on exercise as well as strict dieting.
  • Rapid mood swings - The rush of dopamine released by sexual activity can have a profound effect on the mood of teenagers. Teens engaging in illicit sexual activity are often subject to rapid mood swings, experiencing elation and deep depression as well as irritability in turns.
  • Plummeting grades - Teens often allow their other interests and responsibilities like their schoolwork to fall by the wayside while pursuing sexual activity. If your teen normally has been able to maintain good grades, but they have recently slipped, this can be a sign your teen’s attention is elsewhere.
  • Obtaining birth control - A pretty clear sign of sexual activity is if you find birth control such as contraception pills, condoms, or other forms of birth control in your teen’s possession.

Often, when parents learn that their teens are sexually active, they try to set stronger rules, have conversations about the responsibility of sex, and reinforce beliefs which may censure sex outside of marriage. However, this may not be enough to stop a sexually deviant youth.

How Residential Treatment Centers Help Sexually Deviant Teens

After you have tried all you could, from grounding to interventions with school counselors and therapists and your teen is still engaging in sexual activity, you may want to consider sending your troubled teen to a residential treatment center.

Some of the key ways a residential treatment center helps sexually active teens change are by:

  • Building teens’ self-esteem - Many overly sexual teens struggle with feelings of worthlessness, which leads them to fill the void with sexual attention. At a residential treatment center, teens learn new skills, build confidence through new challenges, and opportunities to provide service to others.
  • Having teens work with therapists - Sexually deviant teens don’t just happen. To reach the root of their issues and help them change, certified mental health professionals work with teens at a residential treatment center.
  • Teaching teens new coping skills - Some teens use sex as a coping method to help them from feeling lonely, unappreciated, and other negative emotions. When in residential treatment, teens learn new ways to cope with the feelings which used to drive them to engage in sex.
  • Helping teens repair academics - As the teens recover from their sexual deviance, a residential treatment center helps the teens' course correct in other aspects of their lives, such as their academics. With the help of state-licensed teachers, teens can enjoy academic recovery.

Liahona Treatment Center is here to help your troubled teen boy back onto the right path. With the help of our expert therapists, teachers, and staff, we work with teenage boys and assist them in rooting out the source of their problems while repairing negative coping methods. To see if our program is right for your teenage troubled son, contact us today.

11-27-18

Two Troubled Teens Who Managed To Turn Their Lives Around

When parents are in the midst of struggling with a troubled teenager, it can be hard to imagine that anything will change. Here at Liahona Treatment Center, we assist many troubled boys to grow into successful young men who managed to turn their lives around, and we wanted to share the stories of two of these teens’ stories to give hope to all the parents hoping for change.

Liahona Graduate John Changed His Focus

John had enjoyed a good childhood in Michigan, but when his family moved to Idaho when he was in seventh grade, he began to become involved with the wrong crowd.

In an attempt to feel special and to find his place in the world, John started to fight with his parents, lie, sneak out of the house, physically fighting with his father, skip school, and began abusing illegal substances. John kept chasing the high and was sent to live with various family members to try and distance him from the people who were drawing him down negative paths.

In a last ditch effort to save John, his parents sent him to Liahona Treatment Center for his senior year of school. When he first came to Liahona, John said he resented being there and was upset with his family for sending him away.

But as he progressed through the program, John began to change. With the help of his therapist and the other staff members, John’s focus moved from himself to supporting others and loving his family. He was able to finally recognize the sacrifices they had made for him, and John began to help other students learn what he has learned.

The John who went home to his family was not the same boy who entered Liahona Treatment Center, and he never wanted to be that troubled teen again.

Liahona Graduate Conner Invited Transformation

Before Connor even reached high school, he became involved with a group of older kids who influenced him into joining in with their criminal activities and substance abuse. Connor tried to use sports to escape the path he was following, but when he blew out his knee his sophomore year, he fell into depression and began to use drugs heavily to escape.

After being kicked out of several schools and continuing to abuse drugs, Connor’s parents decided it was time to send him to a therapeutic boarding school and chose Liahona Treatment Center.

While Connor was not happy to be in our program, he decided to go with the flow and avoid trouble so he could go home early. But, by working with his assigned therapist, staff members and the other students attending, Connor surprised himself by finding he was becoming happier.

Once he realized that he could change, Connor opened his heart to the transformative process we encourage here at Liahona. He learned to study and focus during his classes, discovered healthy new coping methods, and built strong bonds with others. All these skills and others, John was able to take home with him as he reunited with his family.

If you have exhausted your resources and your teenage son has still not been able to change his life, contact us. We are happy to answer any questions you have about our program and see if Liahona Treatment Center is the right fit for your loved one.

Take Advantage of Distance When Sending Your Troubled Teen To Boarding School

For parents of troubled teens, it can hard to imagine what to do with your time once your troubled teen goes away to a school for troubled teens. If you wonder if you will be at loose ends and don’t know what to do, we have some suggestions to help you effectively use the time while your teen is away.

Relax Knowing Your Troubled Teen Is Finally Safe

By the time parents decide to send their teen away to either a boarding school or residential treatment center, they are often near the breaking point due to stress, grief, frustration, and other negative emotions. The idea of relaxation is generally so foreign to them as it has been years since they feel like it is safe to relax.

But once your troubled teen is away, give yourself permission to relax. With your teenager in a safe, healthy and healing environment, you no longer have to keep bracing yourself for when the next disaster will come.

Utilize Family Therapy To Revitalize Ties With Troubled Teen

While your teen is away at their boarding school for troubled teens, schools like Liahona Treatment Center will provide once a week family therapy sessions overseen by your child’s therapist.

As the therapist facilitates these sessions, your family will be able to rebuild their connection to your teen while they receive treatment. In this kind of healthy environment, you and your teen will be able to revitalize family bonds which have become damaged as a direct result of the teen’s actions.

Take Time To Reconnect With Loved Ones

Troubled teens can require the majority of their parents’ attention, taking it away from their siblings and other loved ones. With your troubled teen safely away at a boarding school, parents can focus on reconnecting with their other loved ones.

Seize Self-Care Opportunities With Your Teen Away At School

Much like the ability to relax, parents of a troubled teen often neglect self-care while their child is in turmoil. The long neglect of self-care can leave some parents feeling guilty when they try to do something for themselves, even if it is as simple as buying a new book to read. But it is important to take time to rebuild personal energy so you can still effective offer support to your teen as they are away at school.

To learn more about the Liahona Treatment Center program, contact us. We are ready to help you discover if our program is right for your troubled teenage son.

11-19-2018

10-31-18

Insurance and Other Common Ways Parents Finance A Boarding School for Troubled Teens

As boarding schools for troubled teens offer many excellent services and experienced staff to parents who have troubled teens, it can be costly to have a struggling teenager attend. However, you don’t have to be absurdly well-off to afford the best care for your child.

To help you determine how your family can wrangle your finances to send your struggling teen to a therapeutic boarding school for troubled teens, we have covered how others commonly pay for their teen’s attendance.

Health Insurance May Cover Boarding School For Troubled Teens

If you have health insurance that offers coverage for mental health, you may be able to pay for your teen’s therapeutic boarding school attendance with your insurance.

You will need to contact your insurance provider to determine what requirements the boarding school must meet before coverage is given. A licensed therapeutic boarding school for troubled teens should have the right staff and provide the necessary care to qualify it for insurance coverage.

Loans Are Commonly Utilized By Concerned Parents

Many parents turn to loans to cover their struggling children’s treatment at a boarding school for troubled teens. The two most commonly utilized loans are:

  • Educational loan - Banks and credit unions offer educational loans so that parents can pay for their K-12 children's education. These loans are often lower interest than other private loans.
  • Home equity loan - Parents who are also homeowners can take out a home equity loan or a second mortgage to pay for treatment. While the home equity loan payments would not be tax-deductible if the loan is used to pay for the schooling, the second mortgage payments would be deductible.

Boarding Schools For Troubled Teens Offer Payment Options

Boarding schools for troubled teens understand that paying for your child’s care can be difficult. To help alleviate this problem, most schools offer a variety of payment options. Some of the most common options are:

  • Financing - Most schools work with a third-party health care lender to help parents finance their teens’ treatment.
  • Tuition discounts - If your teen’s stay at the therapeutic boarding school is paid for upfront, many schools offer discounts.
  • Payment plans - Some schools will be able to offer payment plans to families who cannot afford the upfront cost of boarding school attendance.

Here at Liahona Treatment Center, we understand that sending your teen to us for treatment can be financially hard on a family. We offer financing help for parents. To learn more about our program, contact us.

4 Reasons Why Youth Boot Camps Don’t Work To Modify Unwanted Behavior

Sending a rebellious teenager to a youth boot camp has a strong allure for frustrated parents everywhere. The military-style discipline promoted by these camps can make these parents believe that firm guidance is all their teens need to make the right choices. However, there are 4 main reasons why youth boot camps don’t work to modify behavior—in fact, boot camps can make undesirable behaviors worse.

Only Short-Term Changes Occur At Boot Camps

While boot camps are a popular type of troubled teen program, these strict camps are only effective at creating short-term changes for their charges. While attending a youth boot camp, teens are provided with a highly-regulated setting, where they are expected to comply with orders and are often required to undertake a lot of physical exertion. These factors combine to create a more compliant teen.

Once removed from the strenuous environment, many troubled teens backslide into their old bad habits. Some teens may hide their delinquency so that their parents do not send them back to a boot camp, but the changes are skin-deep at best.

Behavioral Modification Requires Therapy

Youth boot camps rely almost solely on experiential therapy—a therapeutic practice that uses experiences to affect behavioral changes—to create behavioral modifications in their charges. While there is merit in incorporating experiential therapy into a troubled teen’s rehabilitation, it should not be the primary therapeutic method.

Poor behavior is rooted in internal causes, and to properly address the source, therapy with a qualified therapist is vital to lasting behavioral modification. As most youth boot camps lack licensed therapeutic staff, it is no wonder why teens’ behaviors never truly change.

Military-Like Discipline May Send The Wrong Message

Since youth boot camps are designed to mimic a military boot camp, there are usually authoritarian figures in charge of the teens. The barking, strict discipline offered by these individuals can reinforce the idea in teens that the most effective way to behave is to be aggressive and use power to control others.

So, if you have a teen who struggles with anger management, a youth boot camp is the last place you should consider sending them.

No After-Program Assistance With Behavior Modification

Not only are youth boot camps short programs, but there is usually no after-program transition home assistance offered. As there is little opportunity for permanent transformation over the course of the boot camp, it becomes difficult for parents to provide their teens with the structure they need to maintain the changes they may have started to make.

Here at Liahona Treatment Center, our residential treatment center provides structure, multiple types of therapy, academic support, and family rebuilding assistance for troubled teen boys. Contact us to learn more about our program and how it can help your family.

10-19-18

Recognizing and Treating Substance Abuse Within A Residential Treatment Center For Teens

Many teens naturally become more private as they grow older, no longer sharing every detail of their lives with their parents. While this withdrawal is tough, it is an important part of your teen’s development. However, some troubled teens become secretive because they are hiding a substance abuse problem.

We want to help you identify the difference between a natural desire for privacy and substance abuse issues, as well as covering how a residential treatment center can help your child make important changes.

Signs Your Teen Is Abusing Drugs

Unless you catch your teen in the act of using drugs or have them take random drug tests, you will need to look for several different signs to see if they are involved in substance abuse.

  • Check your medicine cabinet - Many parents immediately think of street drugs when discussing teen substance abuse. But many teens find their fix at home, abusing opioids prescribed to other family members.
  • Teen’s location is unknown - If your teen regularly disappears, and you don’t know where they are or when they will return, this can be a sign they are abusing illegal substances or engaged in other activities your teen knows you wouldn’t approve of if you knew about them.
  • Personal changes appear - Watch your teen for a variety of personal changes that seem to have no explanation such as bloodshot eyes, poor personal hygiene, smokey smells clinging, and frequent fatigue or hunger.
  • Drop in activity levels - If your teen’s grades have dropped, this can be a sign of substance abuse. Often, as their grades drop, teens who abuse drugs also lose interest in activities they used to like to do.

Residential Treatment Centers Help Teens Overcome Substance Abuse

Once you have identified that your teen has a substance abuse problem, it is vital to give them the help they need. Attending a rehab center is an essential step, but if your teen returns home after a short stay in rehab to detox, there is a high likelihood that your teen will relapse. Instead, you should consider a residential treatment center for troubled teens as the next step in your teen’s recovery.

There is a variety of ways that a residential treatment center can help your teen make important changes in their life.

  • When in treatment, your teen will receive daily therapy to help them uncover the root cause behind their substance abuse.
  • Academics will be addressed, helping your teen recover from the damage their drug abuse did to their grades.
  • Teens attending a residential treatment center learn new skills such as culinary arts, music, community service abilities, and more, helping troubled teens replace bad habits.

If your teen has struggled with substance abuse and has not been able to make permanent lifestyle changes, contact us. Our program advisors can answer your questions and tell you whether Liahona Treatment Center is right for your teenage son.