What is accountability?There may be several different understood definitions of what accountability means. The base definition of the word is taking on the responsibility for your actions, regardless of the consequences. When children are taught to take responsibility for their actions and decisions, it helps to shape them into responsible members of the community. Best of all, it helps to develop your young person into a conscientious human, one who is valued for everything they bring to the lives of those around them. Without accountability, your son is likely to blame others for issues he experiences. He will refuse to follow any established rules that he disagrees with, and he is likely to find a way to justify bad behavior no matter how it impacts others.
Ways to hold your teen son accountableIf we are all working to raise sons who are accountable, why does it seem that so many appear to lack this attribute? The truth is that instilling accountability in any child or teenager is not a simple task. It can prove to be a long process that requires a fair amount of diplomacy and endless patience. You can take several steps to help your son be more accountable to himself and others around him.
Be a role modelIt may feel cliché, but you truly are the best role model that your children have. As a parenting tool, role modeling can be one of the most effective resources you have to teach your son anything. If there are values that you want to instill in your teen, demonstrate them in your daily life. If you want your son to take responsibility for his actions, you should do the same. Here are some examples of how you can demonstrate accountability:
- Don’t blame others or try to shift blame when something happens.
- Follow the rules, including applicable laws, and don’t try to skip the consequences if you break them.
- If you do make mistakes or hurt others, admit it. Make your apologies and amends if appropriate.